I was commenting the other day regarding Bristol Palin's campaign for abstinence. I posted a challenge to women and men if they believed abstinence worked. Some people commented but, I think because this challenge was buried in a seeded article, I figured why not - let me try an article and see if I can get reaction to this important question.
In my opinion, abstinence does not work. There is no way to stop the biological drives we all experience growing up. It is a fact that urges happened when falling in love and wanting to be totally with the person you love in every way. It is our job as parents to help our young impressionable daughters and son learn about the sex drives and how to handle situations that arise from "dating". Yes you can tell them all about being abstinent - (like they are really listening to this). Or we can as parents arm our children with factual information, sex education, the hazards of STDs and the responsibility and reprecussions of an unwanted pregnancy.
All too often we forget that our children are just that - CHILDREN. I see very young girls dressed up like (hookers) walking around the Malls and shopping centers. I don't think they know the effect of how they are dressed, but to me, it sure doesn't send the right signal. It is not that they are dressed this way that bothers me more than - it is that they are allowed to dress that way. These days our children are trying to grow up too fast and are not cognizant of the reprecussions of their actions. When we have teenage children getting pregnant, it has been celebrated in the media - (the Spears, the Palins, etc.). What kind of message does that send to our impressionable young girls. Look how beautiful their baby's are and look at all the attention they are getting.
I'm not saying that Bristol should be tarred and feathered for her campaign on abstinence. But I do say she really shouldn't be out there saying one thing while showing how much she loves the attention. (LIke mother, like daughter), If Sarah, Bristol's mother, did not practice abstinence and became pregnant out of wed-lock, then what happened? If teaching abstinence works - what can you say about Bristol and about how good of a mother Sarah is?
So here's my challenge: To all women and men, girls and boys -
Do you believe in abstinence?
How old are you?
Are you in a relationship?
If you do not believe, are you practicing safe sex. (kind of personal - I know - but it is relevant)
All you men - do you honor women who choose to abstain - or are you more apt to force your views on women if you do not believe?
I am sure there are a lot more questions that should be asked - but I didn't want this to get too boring or too personal.
So thank you everyone for participating - hopefully we'll get some good debate going on.